Options and Decisions

Well today's post is related to a poem of mine wherein I've tried to ask myself a few questions. Perhaps these questions ring in many other minds/hearts also. The questions related to options we get in life and the options we come to exercise based on certain decisions of ours that we make.
I feel at any point of time in life we have options and based on the option we choose we get the next option. Much like GRE or similar exams where your answer decides your next question. But what decides our performance at the end of the exams ? Is it our capability to take the right decision or the capability to take the decision at all or is it our tendency to keep looking back on the previous decisions that we made.

If we think of ourselves some of us would leave our decisions to others. Some would choose an option and think what would have happened if we had chosen the other one. Then there would be some who would just chosing the option till they realise that they have just been making the wrong choices. And then there will be a breed which will realise that with each choice the next one has to be made more carefully based on the past experience. And there would be yet another set who will just keep clicking a random number. We can give various names to such categories, cowards, reckless, mature/experience, fools (not in the corresponding order).

But we all know that some of us emerge as winners while others end on the low scores. So what is it that winners do and the others don't. Perhaps first thing that they realise is that life is not just an exam. Its beautiful after all. Life does contain a mix of logic and emotions. And emotions come to us naturally. Logic is the name they give to the patterns they build in our brains by a systematic set up of "education". So do they strike the balance between the two ?

Lets now take an example. Relationship. Instead of elaborating on how different people would react to this, we need to just ask ourselves. And we would get the answer what kind of a person we are. All of us in life would have had to make a choice on this aspect. Based on what we chose we would be in different situations. And how we have dealt with those would let us know quite a lot about ourselves.

At the end of it if I look at it we can chose to be forward driven or sit on the fence trying to be our own judge rather than letting life decide while we perform our role that we chose for ourselves.

As one of my friend put "We always overestimate our roles in others' lives and understimate theirs' in our life."

On this note .. my work ..

उलझी हुई डोर को,
सुलझाने मॆं निकले जो पल,
उन पलों में ,
कुछ सिरे मैने छोड़ दिए
उस पार उन सिरों के,
थी एक अनजान जिन्दगी,
अनजान मगर थी तो कुछ जिन्दगी,
जहाँ ना शब्दों का शोर,
ना ईंट के घर,
ना आंखों मॆं ठंड,
कुछ एहसासों का स्पंदन,
कुछ शरीरों के गर्मी,
एक सड़क सपाट अनंत

मगर इधर उलझी डोरों,
मॆं उलझा मन ,
हर टूटती डोर,
मॆं गाँठ बाँधता यह मन ,
कौन जाने कब छूट जाये,
ना दिखने को पर्यंत
बस अपने जाल खुद बुनता,
कुछ पाने की तलाश मैं,
एक मूढ़ बुड़बक ,
पहचान ना हो जिसकी अभिन्न